Martes, Mayo 29, 2012

UNEXPECTED TWINS - Double the Love, Double the Hugs and Kisses

UNEXPECTED TWINS - Double the Love, Double the Hugs and Kisses

Being a parent twins or multiples is an experience full of ups and downs. There are many challenging times, for sure, but also plenty of moments where you feel so lucky and blessed to have them. These are some of the things that I love most about being a mom of twins.

1. Armfuls and Handfuls
Every child fills their parents' hearts and home with joy. That's what I really love about having twins . The love and joy are compounded. Cradling two twinfants in my arms was so incredibly, almost unbearably, sweet. Holding hands with two toddlers -- one on the right, and one on the left -- while crossing the street made me feel complete. Double hugs, double kisses, mommy-in-the-middle "sandwich" cuddles on the couch... life just doesn't get any better than that.

2. Shared Accomplishments
It's always exciting to see your child meet a milestone. But when two or more multiples accomplish their goals simultaneously, it's a wonderful experience for a family.

3. Alike, But Different
It's fascinating to be an observer of twins. With so many similarities, but such stark differences, it's always interesting to see how they develop as individuals. Where parents of singletons may say, "Oh, you are just like your sister was at that age," parents of multiples have an instant basis of comparison and contrast among their children.

4. 2-For-1 Bonus
Short and sweet .... one pregnancy = two babies! Such a deal! Although a pregnancy with multiples may have more risks, and sometimes more complications, it truly is a two-for-one deal.

5. A Sense of Status
Okay, I admit it. I get a little thrill of pride in being a mom of twins. It's like being a part of an elite club. You feel an instant bond with other parents of multiples. I love the reaction I get when I tell people I have twins. "Wow!" "I always wanted twins..." "I don't know how you do it..." It's almost like we enjoy an exclusive status in the parenting world, earning a slight nod of respect for pulling double duty.

6. Sharing
Twins share everything -- their birthday, their parents' attention, and many of their belongings. Although they may get frustrated with their situation, as a parent, it's very gratifying to witness their "what's mine is yours" attitude in a moment of unselfish benevolence.

7. A Beautiful Bond
The twin bond is more enduring than any other relationship on earth, starting even before birth, and often outlasting many friendships and even marriages. Despite their squabbles, it's comforting to know that they will (hopefully) enjoy their unique relationship for all of their lives. As their mother, I feel really privileged to be a party to their special bond, and to have the opportunity to nurture it.

8. Confidence in Companionship
I love the confidence that my twins exhibit simply because they have always had each other to rely on. I love to watch them enter new, unfamiliar situations with total surety because they are together. I love seeing all the ways that being a twin shapes their personalities, both as an advantage and a disadvantage. They have never known loneliness because they've always had each other as a companion.

After the initial shock that I was having twins, I realized that I wouldn't want it any other way. It has been my greatest accomplishment in my life to be pregnant with twins, deliver healthy babies, and to raise twins.

It is challenging at times, but it brings me great joy to watch them grow simultaneously. The most amazing feeling in the world is to be able to hold both your children and get two wet kisses on each cheek at the same time.

 I'm joining " 3 Sprouts Unexpected Blog Contest" of Momalom

3 komento:

  1. Thank you so much for entering our contest! So much of what you wrote I smiled at because i can totally see... being part of an elite group - absolutely! I am in AWE of moms of multiples. I love how you describe that your twins enter new situations with a sense of confidence because of each other. How sweet. And the similarities and differences - must be amazing. you seem like a wonderful mom. Twice over! Thanks again for being a part of the fun at 3sprouts!

  2. I love this slice into your MindHeart. It's inspiring and lovely and oh my, yes - inspiring!

  3. This is so sweet! My little sisters are twins and I definitely agree with #8 - they are SO close (I often felt jealous as their older sister that they had such a special bond!). They're adults now, and one of the funniest/sweetest things I've ever heard was when they were talking about their boyfriends and one of them said "Well, [boyfriend's name] just has to understand, he's never going to be #1 - my twin is always going to be the most important person in my life!"

    You are in for a lifetime of special moments :)